Today I want to talk about the health benefits of being selfish. How many times have you been called selfish? How many times have you called someone "selfish"?
One of the most hilarious ironies in life is when you accuse someone else of being selfish, you are being selfish. Every single time.
If you call someone else selfish, it’s because you have a selfish desire for them to do something for you that they are not doing. This happens in relationships all the time. One person wants the other person to give more to them (which is selfish) and they accuse the other person of being selfish because they aren’t giving enough to them.
So the next time you want to accuse a person of being selfish, just stop for a second to recognize the hypocrisy of what you are about to say.
When you take care of yourself first, you show up as a healthy, grounded person in life. Selfish is considered an ugly word but it can mean two different things. One connotation is that you’re unkind and inconsiderate of others. The other is that you take responsibility for getting your personal, emotional and physical needs met, and that’s an important part of becoming an adult. The key to healthy selfishness is being self-focused instead of self-involved. Schedule some “me time,” and you might discover these four benefits:
1. YOU’LL BE HEALTHIER
Selfish people tend to take better care of themselves instead of giving too much energy away serving the needs of everyone else.
2. YOU’LL HAVE AN ADVANTAGE WHEN IT COMES TO LEADERSHIP ROLES
Studies have shown that acting in your own self-interest may give you an advantage in leadership roles. Selfish people are more confident and less likely to give up on goals. They go after what they want unapologetically, and they’re not afraid to ask for what they want.
Selfish people have a drive to succeed. There is often a higher purpose to be a great leader–taking care of other people. But if you can’t take care of yourself, you can’t care for others. Being selfish is critical.
3. YOU’LL HAVE BETTER RELATIONSHIPS
People will have a harder time manipulating or taking advantage of you if you’re selfish. Setting boundaries means knowing where you end and other person begins. If you have trouble being self-focused, you might have trouble saying no. To be a healthy, grounded person, you need to be selfish. If you’re looking to a partner to fill your emotional needs, your relationship is vulnerable.
4. YOU’LL BE HAPPIER
Selfish people spend their time doing activities they like to do. If you have a well-developed sense of who you are, what you enjoy and the ability to communicate this to others, you’ll be a happier person. Putting yourself first is not a negative quality; it’s your job to take care of yourself and get what you need. When you’re able to focus within, you’re much more authentic and much happier.