Due to the fantastic interview we had with Melody last week the "Ask Dr. Akilah" part of the show was postponed. This episode makes up for that and then some. I am giving long in dept answers to most of the questions asked. The first question deals with a married couple with two different eating habits. Is this means for a divorce or should they work it out? Next I answer a question that hits close to home. Bipolar disorder. Does this illness really exist or is it an excuse to be abusive? Find out the answers to these questions and much more by listening to this podcast.
If you would like Dr. Akilah to answer your holistic, fitness or empowerment questions please email them to email@example.com and be sure to include a name and location (city, state or country). You can also leave your question by voice. Simply click here or click the "Ask Dr Akilah" tab above, scroll to the bottom of the page and click on the phone icon to ask your question by voice. It's easy, quick and simple.
Dear Dr. Akilah,
When my husband and I married we both ate meat. I started a vegetarian diet five years ago and became a vegan last year but my husband continues to eat meat. My husband refuse to eat the way I do and it’s affecting our relationship. Now that I don’t eat meat anymore I refuse to cook it. This angers him because he either has to order take away or cooks the meat himself. His resistance to comply with my way of eating is causing us to grow apart. I would love to be active in vegan society with my husband but due to his lifestyle this is not possible. He has gained a lot of weight eating his meat and it’s affecting his health. Please Dr. Akilah, how do I convince him to change his diet, embrace the vegan lifestyle and save our marriage?
What we eat is a personal choice that usually defines who we are. When it comes to veganism we are talking about a very extreme eating regimen that’s not common in today’s society. Yes, it would be awesome if your hubby joined along and embraced your new lifestyle. The truth of the matter is that not everyone wants to go vegan and you have to respect that. Just because this is a decision you have made for yourself, do you think it’s fair and reasonable to expect him to drop his own beliefs about food and join you on your vegan journey? You may think so, but in reality the answer is "No".
But does it mean you should divorce your husband just because he doesn't want to join you? Of course not, because that's not fair. You made vows before you decided to change your eating habits. You changed and became a different person. This is not a bad thing but it changes the dynamics of your marriage. Compromise with your husband and make peace with his decision to eat meat. If you have zero tolerance for his eating habits then you have some serious decisions to make. However, the question you have to ask yourself is this. “Am I using this as an excuse to get of the marriage or is this really a zero tolerance for me?”
Good Luck to You!
Hi Dr. Akilah,
My sister was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and has been very difficult to deal with since her diagnosis. Sometimes she can be sweet and lovable and then BOOM she’s a devil woman from hell. She refuse to take her medication because she doesn't’t like the way it makes her feel. What kind of herbs can she take to help balance her mood?
Love your show. Keep up the good work. ,
There aren’t any herbs for your sister to take to “cure” bipolar disorder. However, I believe that bipolar disorder is deep rooted anger issues that haven't been resolved. I also noticed that you said she started acting like “a devil woman from hell” as soon as she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Could it be possible that she is using this diagnosis as a means to be abusive to those around her? I have a few family members who have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and all of them
warn alert family members and friends around them that they’re bipolar before doing something irrational. However, when I warn them that their actions will cause me to react in an unfavorable way they always and I mean ALWAYS avoid doing anything irrational or violent in my presence. This is when I realized that some people use bipolar disorder as an excuse to be abusive or irrational. This is an issue that must be addressed by an emotional therapist. Have a heart to heart with your sister and suggest that she seek some form of emotional therapy. Unfortunately, herbs will be useless for this type of “illness”.
Peace and Blessings,
Dear Dr. Akilah,
I have been watching your workout videos on youtube and you have motivated me to restart my fitness program. Here’s my question…….What are the best foods to eat before working out and when should I eat them.
Good question and I'm glad to motivate you to restart your fitness program. I'm vegan so I consume a big bowl of cut fruit or a 24 – 32oz smoothie before hitting the gym. Fruit gives me a lot of energy and keeps me "Pumped" throughout my workouts. If you eat meat you can eat fruit, drink a fruit smoothie or eat eggs. A nice egg white veggie omelet is a good way to go. You can also consume oatmeal or quinoa porridge.
I'm against consuming whey protein shakes or soy protein shakes before working out. If you want to consume a protein shake go for rice or hemp protein shakes. Drink your shake or eat your small meal at least an hour before exercising.
NOW GO HIT THOSE WEIGHTS GURL!!!!!